In relationships, conflict and disagreements are inevitable. However, certain negative communication patterns can become so destructive that they erode the very foundation of a partnership. Dr. John Gottman, renowned psychologist and relationship expert, identified these harmful behaviors as the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.”
There are countless approaches and techniques designed to help couples navigate the challenges that come with committed relationships. One particularly effective and research-backed method is Gottman Couples Therapy. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this approach focuses on strengthening the friendship, deepening emotional connection, and enhancing intimacy between partners. Let’s explore some key principles of Gottman Couples Therapy, shedding light on why it has become a widely acclaimed approach for relationship enrichment.
One of the hardest things to do in any relationship is to take in negative feedback. If it is our spouse or partner who is giving us feedback, especially if the feedback contains a complaint, we often react with defensiveness. While defensiveness is a natural response, it is one we must train ourselves out of if we want to create a safe environment for communication.
You may have come across the term bi-lateral stimulation as a component of EMDR therapy, and have felt unsure of what it really means. Let’s look at what it is and why it is used in EMDR.